When you find out you’re having twins, your excitement can be overshadowed by a fear of coping with two newborns. In my case, I had a husband who was working away Monday to Friday, no family nearby and an imminent move to West Africa to contend with. If you’re a twin mummy-to-be, here are ten truths about those early days.
- The first three weeks are intense! But only because you have no idea what you’re doing. Your hormones turn against you and you may have moments of thinking ‘what have I done?’. With every passing day, it does get easier.
- Try not to kill your partner during paternity leave. Seriously.
- Don’t despair when you catch sight of your body during those first few weeks. I shed MANY tears. If you too were unlucky enough to be destroyed by stretch marks… Fuck it. Life is short. Skin is just skin. Yes, you may now resemble a burst piñata, but you can live with it. And if you need to wear a one piece for the rest of your days, just make sure it’s Dolce.
- Having twins is hard. But it’s not as hard as people say it will be! It’s all a state of mind. Wake up feeling bouncy and you will smash it as a twin mum. But if you wake up feeling sluggish you’ll be in for challenging 12 hours. I have discovered the key is a positive mental attitude.
- Your nipples are no longer your own. I have been warned my breasts will soon resemble two tube socks, filled with pound coins. But they are feeding two little people and helping them grow – so at least that’s something.
- Look after yourself too. Have a shower. Wash your hair. Actually, don’t wash your hair, go for a bloody blow dry! Think about what you’re going to wear. Put mascara on. Make that phone call. Nobody ever died from 2 minutes of crying.
- Don’t read anything.
- Get out and about from day one. It’s easy to worry so much about leaving the house with twins, that you won’t cross the threshold. Where will I change them, how will I feed them both, how will I get up the stairs at the tube station, what if they both start screaming at the same time? The truth is you will figure it out. We are a practical multitasking generation who are used to thinking on our feet and you will find a way.
- Nothing lasts forever. Every stage is fleeting, so embrace every moment; the rough and the smooth.
- And the first time they smile at one another, your heart will LITERALLY explode in your chest.